We have all heard the phrase, "You have to love your self first". As a professional psychic, I have heard this quite a bit over the years. As a clairvoyant, I can "see" or "feel" what is actually happening in a person's life and what they can do to get more balance in their lives if they really want to change to occur.
This topic is interesting because people say it often and while we all seem to know what it means, there is no real explanation of just how to accomplish this enormous task. The person saying this to someone who is experiencing anguish, elevated anxiety, hurt, fear, frustration or depression, is usually unaware of the effect this comment can have on its recipient. Sometimes people who say this are exasperated with the person having difficulties because they do not have the skills or training to really help solve these issues.
People usually have the intension of trying to get the person to do something about their situation. Loving yourself first is a well meaning phrase, but, without the proper training, most people don't have any idea what it takes to actually love yourself. Saying something like this to someone can cause them to feel unsupported and they must go it alone with no idea how.
People need to realize what message they are really sending when they say well-intended things. The person receiving it can feel that you really don't understand the pain they are feeling, which can cause them to withdraw into themselves because no one understands.
1. I'm frustrated because I don't know how to help you
2. If only you'd do what I tell you to do, everything will get resolved
3. Quit complaining and do something about it
4. I can't fix it for you so I don't want to hear about it anymore
Psychics often hear from people when they feel at the end of their rope and in deep trouble. They feel rejected by their friends; they are desperate for someone to help them feel better by listening and giving them compassionate advice.
What people really need in these challenging situations, is to begin the process of treating the 'self' well. This means they begin by taking the first step of action. Below is a metaphorical story that is easy to understand:
Most parents will react immediately to a child that is being assaulted by other children. Their built-in instincts force them to rush in to save the child from a bad situation. They will usually removed them quickly, find out if they are physically okay, then hug them in a re-assuring way until they calm down. They have in effect saved the child's 'self' from further altercations.
Adults can also get beat up on the playground of life, and, we have to learn to save our "selves". When adults get into difficult problems, they tend to get stuck and hope that, in time, things will change on their own. We buy time, longing for our situation to right itself, while continuing to endure pain and suffering.
When things don't change, it is because no action has been taken has been taken. The cycle begins again, over and over until we are desperate for change and don't know what to do, where to go or who to turn to. Why? The answer to this is because we were not taught how to save our "selves". We complain to our friends, hairdressers, neighbors, counselors, therapists or doctors and still, nothing improves the situation. The act of loving yourself means taking your "self" out of a bad situation by grabbing your own hand and moving to higher ground. Other actions can include things like:
1. Taking your "self" for a walk, changing your residence, changing a job or career, removing your "self" from the negative behavior of a friend, relative or lover.
2. Take a class and learn something that you have always dreamed of
Psychic readings can help people see that you are only as trapped as you feel. They try to open up the person so that they, too, can see that they have the ability to change the situation. Professional psychics will get you to see that hope is not a good strategy and that it is up to the person to take the step that has been pointed out to them.
Loving yourself first is the only option you have if you want others to love you back.
This topic is interesting because people say it often and while we all seem to know what it means, there is no real explanation of just how to accomplish this enormous task. The person saying this to someone who is experiencing anguish, elevated anxiety, hurt, fear, frustration or depression, is usually unaware of the effect this comment can have on its recipient. Sometimes people who say this are exasperated with the person having difficulties because they do not have the skills or training to really help solve these issues.
People usually have the intension of trying to get the person to do something about their situation. Loving yourself first is a well meaning phrase, but, without the proper training, most people don't have any idea what it takes to actually love yourself. Saying something like this to someone can cause them to feel unsupported and they must go it alone with no idea how.
People need to realize what message they are really sending when they say well-intended things. The person receiving it can feel that you really don't understand the pain they are feeling, which can cause them to withdraw into themselves because no one understands.
1. I'm frustrated because I don't know how to help you
2. If only you'd do what I tell you to do, everything will get resolved
3. Quit complaining and do something about it
4. I can't fix it for you so I don't want to hear about it anymore
Psychics often hear from people when they feel at the end of their rope and in deep trouble. They feel rejected by their friends; they are desperate for someone to help them feel better by listening and giving them compassionate advice.
What people really need in these challenging situations, is to begin the process of treating the 'self' well. This means they begin by taking the first step of action. Below is a metaphorical story that is easy to understand:
Most parents will react immediately to a child that is being assaulted by other children. Their built-in instincts force them to rush in to save the child from a bad situation. They will usually removed them quickly, find out if they are physically okay, then hug them in a re-assuring way until they calm down. They have in effect saved the child's 'self' from further altercations.
Adults can also get beat up on the playground of life, and, we have to learn to save our "selves". When adults get into difficult problems, they tend to get stuck and hope that, in time, things will change on their own. We buy time, longing for our situation to right itself, while continuing to endure pain and suffering.
When things don't change, it is because no action has been taken has been taken. The cycle begins again, over and over until we are desperate for change and don't know what to do, where to go or who to turn to. Why? The answer to this is because we were not taught how to save our "selves". We complain to our friends, hairdressers, neighbors, counselors, therapists or doctors and still, nothing improves the situation. The act of loving yourself means taking your "self" out of a bad situation by grabbing your own hand and moving to higher ground. Other actions can include things like:
1. Taking your "self" for a walk, changing your residence, changing a job or career, removing your "self" from the negative behavior of a friend, relative or lover.
2. Take a class and learn something that you have always dreamed of
Psychic readings can help people see that you are only as trapped as you feel. They try to open up the person so that they, too, can see that they have the ability to change the situation. Professional psychics will get you to see that hope is not a good strategy and that it is up to the person to take the step that has been pointed out to them.
Loving yourself first is the only option you have if you want others to love you back.
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