Relationships vary in many ways. Co-dependent kinds are discouraged and largely considered dysfunctional. In these, a person will enable or support the poor mental health, irresponsibility, underachievement, immaturity or addiction of the other person. A big sign for codependency is the extreme reliance on others for identity and approval.
It is believed that this concept comes from Alcoholics Anonymous, as there is a moment of realization that the issue is not only that of the addict but also his or her family and friends. The co-dependent ideology overlaps with an old psychoanalytic concept of passive dependent personalities latching onto to stronger personalities. Dependency is a familiar term used in psychological literature.
There are different behaviors and symptoms associated with this. Because it has a grassroots origin, the main definition for this is excepted to vary depending on the source. It can generally be described as situational and subclinical, or episodic behavior that is like that of dependent personality disorders.
A definition that is more broad would suggest that co-dependent people are unable to function on their own. Their behavior and thinking is organized around a particular person, process or substance. Those who are addicted to gambling or drugs might therefore be considered co-dependent. Another definition, that is more raw, says that a person must be psychologically or physically addicted and another has to be psychologically dependent on a behavior. Sometimes people empty the term dysfunctional family to describe this disease rather than co-dependent.
Showing feelings or behaviors that are caring does not make a person fall under this category. The term is mostly reserved for those who display an excessive amount of caring that becomes unhealthy. Healthy caregiving, and even empathy, are done by consciously, by choice. Co-dependents are different because most of their actions are done on impulse and without real consideration for possible consequences and sacrifices that are being made.
There are treatment providers and scholars who believe that this behavior is over-responsibility. This occurs when positive impulses go above and beyond. Responsibility for relationships with people need to coexist with responsibility to oneself.
To be co-dependent is to suffer with a disease in which one loses him or herself. In these cases, most people will begin to put their needs lower on the list of priorities and become preoccupied with the needs of others instead. These relationships often feature control, denial, high reactivity, dependency, problems with intimacy, and dysfunctional communication and boundaries. Typically there is an imbalance, in which one person will have control, be abusive, or enable and support the bad behavior of another.
Some of the most common symptoms of co-dependents include unstable and intense interpersonal relationships, external referencing, low self-worth, denial and dishonesty, and overwhelming desire to be accepted. These people might also be unable to tolerate being left alone, have chronic feelings of emptiness or boredom, seek affection, and subordinate their own needs to those of the person they are involved with. This type of behavior can take place in any kind of relationship, including community or peer, friendship, romantic, work or family. People who recognize these dysfunctional relationships are encouraged to seek professional help.
It is believed that this concept comes from Alcoholics Anonymous, as there is a moment of realization that the issue is not only that of the addict but also his or her family and friends. The co-dependent ideology overlaps with an old psychoanalytic concept of passive dependent personalities latching onto to stronger personalities. Dependency is a familiar term used in psychological literature.
There are different behaviors and symptoms associated with this. Because it has a grassroots origin, the main definition for this is excepted to vary depending on the source. It can generally be described as situational and subclinical, or episodic behavior that is like that of dependent personality disorders.
A definition that is more broad would suggest that co-dependent people are unable to function on their own. Their behavior and thinking is organized around a particular person, process or substance. Those who are addicted to gambling or drugs might therefore be considered co-dependent. Another definition, that is more raw, says that a person must be psychologically or physically addicted and another has to be psychologically dependent on a behavior. Sometimes people empty the term dysfunctional family to describe this disease rather than co-dependent.
Showing feelings or behaviors that are caring does not make a person fall under this category. The term is mostly reserved for those who display an excessive amount of caring that becomes unhealthy. Healthy caregiving, and even empathy, are done by consciously, by choice. Co-dependents are different because most of their actions are done on impulse and without real consideration for possible consequences and sacrifices that are being made.
There are treatment providers and scholars who believe that this behavior is over-responsibility. This occurs when positive impulses go above and beyond. Responsibility for relationships with people need to coexist with responsibility to oneself.
To be co-dependent is to suffer with a disease in which one loses him or herself. In these cases, most people will begin to put their needs lower on the list of priorities and become preoccupied with the needs of others instead. These relationships often feature control, denial, high reactivity, dependency, problems with intimacy, and dysfunctional communication and boundaries. Typically there is an imbalance, in which one person will have control, be abusive, or enable and support the bad behavior of another.
Some of the most common symptoms of co-dependents include unstable and intense interpersonal relationships, external referencing, low self-worth, denial and dishonesty, and overwhelming desire to be accepted. These people might also be unable to tolerate being left alone, have chronic feelings of emptiness or boredom, seek affection, and subordinate their own needs to those of the person they are involved with. This type of behavior can take place in any kind of relationship, including community or peer, friendship, romantic, work or family. People who recognize these dysfunctional relationships are encouraged to seek professional help.
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