If you are looking for an answer to this question, you'll find it here. While I won't share with you the secret that will make you a confident person within a few days (there's no such thing), I'll show you three things that will help you fight with your shyness and improve your self-confidence (if you put them to use). Here they are! Don't give a damn what anyone thinks about you.Les Brown said that other people's opinion of you does not have to become your reality. Remind yourself of this quote daily.Confident people don't care what other people think of them. When you do that, you tend to concentrate on other people's opinion instead of improving yourself. And that can make you feel insecure. Whenever you notice that you're worrying what other people think, change your thoughts to something positive. Control your thoughts!
The first step in achieving such self-efficacy is changing the way you think. Start thinking positively. People who have a low self-confidence are the ones who think "low" of themselves. Control your views about yourself and accentuate the positive. Being optimistic would likewise help. Remember, whatever you perceived yourself to be, it will come to life. If you think of yourself as a very timid and shy person, then you will be one. If you are awfully afraid to commit mistakes, then you will definitely make a ton of them. Try foreseeing yourself appropriately dressed up, comfortably standing behind a lectern with a microphone properly held in your hand, uttering the words correctly within the right tone and volume of voice, and executing significant gestures with your other hand in front of a crowd that is so attentive, convinced, and satisfied. You are the master of your thoughts, steer it in a way that would help you be confident and successful.
Join a gym and start working out, start jogging, take up a new sport (extreme sports, martial arts etc.). Join some interesting classes (dance, cooking etc.), join Toastmasters, start learning a new language, acquire some new skills. Start traveling more (traveling alone will extremely improve your self-confidence).The richer your life is, the more confident you feel. The more you experience, the bigger your comfort zone is. And that means that you're getting more confident with every new experience. Take action - the world is waiting for you!
Now, realize your strengths and capabilities; look back to your achievements. Highlight your strengths. Perhaps it would help if you jot down all the things you have accomplished, the successes you have earned, be it very small or great ones. It could be a medal or trophy from high school, or as simple as a "good job" from a teacher or a friend. Write down the good qualities in you; the things other people say you are good at. It could be in the field of sports, culinary, music, leadership, time management, housekeeping, gardening, teaching, or as simple as making friends. Note it all down and you will be surprised how long your list would be.
Got the picture? Interestingly I read through those affirmations of mine and I realise two things - firstly; they are all second nature to me now which is great, but the biggest thing I notice is how my life has taken some new directions based on them.For example, as I began to develop my self-confidence and believe my own affirmations I met Sophie, a fantastic and wonderful woman who I fell in love with. I have no doubt that our relationship would not have been so successful had I not turned my self esteem around with affirmations.
Here are 5 self-confidence tips for your inner world.Focus on what you want to do. Slow down and focus on things that are of real importance to you. We have a tendency to think we are important if we are multi-tasking today. We rush from one task to the next. It is common sense that this makes us do things half-heartedly. The more things you are up to the less time you have for each one of them. This might make you good at producing quantity, but it is at the expense of quality. This is a self-confidence killer, since you know you are not doing the tasks as good as you can do. When you have less things to do and you have the time to do them properly your self-confidence will increase.
Know that true beauty comes from the inside. You might say this is a cliche but in that case it is a true cliche. When you are pleased with yourself on the inside it will show on the outside. You can have all the qualities for outer beauty, but if you dont feel beautiful on the inside it will affect your outer look negatively. Most people are spending a fortune and a lot of time (=life) to fix their outer look, when what really makes one successful is the inner look. When your inside is beautiful your outer presence will shine.
When we lack self confidence, we tend to talk badly about ourselves or put ourselves down. Not necessarily to those around us, though sometimes we do. What I'm talking about is when you are all alone and you say things to yourself like, you'll never get that job, there are so many others more qualified than you, or who would ever date me, I'm a fat mess.
Create something in stillness. When you spend time alone and in stillness you feed your creative vein. Why do you think many poets, artists, authors, musicians spend time alone? Because the loneliness gives them the chance to create from the inside. Why do you think people are destroying the world today? Because they are in such a hurry all the time so they dont see the beauty of the world. When you calm down and walk slowly all the beauty of the world will reveal itself to you.
Examples of self affirmations.I am confident in all that I do.When I look in the mirror, I see a confident able person looking back at me.I set achievable goals and I reach them easily.I am good at my job and others readily acknowledge this fact.I move confidently in the direction of my dreams.I look and feel great.I am strong and confident and I learn from my mistakes.I give and receive love freely.I am grateful for all the many blessings in my life and I have lots of them.I am confident in my ability to treat others with respect and in return, they treat me with respect.The above is just a short list of affirmations you can use to boost your confidence. You can use one of these affirmations I have provided here in this article or you can create your own. Just remember when you create your own affirmations, they need to be stated in the present tense and they need to be made with positive language.This article only addresses how to build self confidence using affirmations. There are plenty of other ways to build up your confidence. Affirmations are surely one very powerful way and should be included in any efforts for building your confidence, but remember there are several things you can do to build up your confidence.
The first step in achieving such self-efficacy is changing the way you think. Start thinking positively. People who have a low self-confidence are the ones who think "low" of themselves. Control your views about yourself and accentuate the positive. Being optimistic would likewise help. Remember, whatever you perceived yourself to be, it will come to life. If you think of yourself as a very timid and shy person, then you will be one. If you are awfully afraid to commit mistakes, then you will definitely make a ton of them. Try foreseeing yourself appropriately dressed up, comfortably standing behind a lectern with a microphone properly held in your hand, uttering the words correctly within the right tone and volume of voice, and executing significant gestures with your other hand in front of a crowd that is so attentive, convinced, and satisfied. You are the master of your thoughts, steer it in a way that would help you be confident and successful.
Join a gym and start working out, start jogging, take up a new sport (extreme sports, martial arts etc.). Join some interesting classes (dance, cooking etc.), join Toastmasters, start learning a new language, acquire some new skills. Start traveling more (traveling alone will extremely improve your self-confidence).The richer your life is, the more confident you feel. The more you experience, the bigger your comfort zone is. And that means that you're getting more confident with every new experience. Take action - the world is waiting for you!
Now, realize your strengths and capabilities; look back to your achievements. Highlight your strengths. Perhaps it would help if you jot down all the things you have accomplished, the successes you have earned, be it very small or great ones. It could be a medal or trophy from high school, or as simple as a "good job" from a teacher or a friend. Write down the good qualities in you; the things other people say you are good at. It could be in the field of sports, culinary, music, leadership, time management, housekeeping, gardening, teaching, or as simple as making friends. Note it all down and you will be surprised how long your list would be.
Got the picture? Interestingly I read through those affirmations of mine and I realise two things - firstly; they are all second nature to me now which is great, but the biggest thing I notice is how my life has taken some new directions based on them.For example, as I began to develop my self-confidence and believe my own affirmations I met Sophie, a fantastic and wonderful woman who I fell in love with. I have no doubt that our relationship would not have been so successful had I not turned my self esteem around with affirmations.
Here are 5 self-confidence tips for your inner world.Focus on what you want to do. Slow down and focus on things that are of real importance to you. We have a tendency to think we are important if we are multi-tasking today. We rush from one task to the next. It is common sense that this makes us do things half-heartedly. The more things you are up to the less time you have for each one of them. This might make you good at producing quantity, but it is at the expense of quality. This is a self-confidence killer, since you know you are not doing the tasks as good as you can do. When you have less things to do and you have the time to do them properly your self-confidence will increase.
Know that true beauty comes from the inside. You might say this is a cliche but in that case it is a true cliche. When you are pleased with yourself on the inside it will show on the outside. You can have all the qualities for outer beauty, but if you dont feel beautiful on the inside it will affect your outer look negatively. Most people are spending a fortune and a lot of time (=life) to fix their outer look, when what really makes one successful is the inner look. When your inside is beautiful your outer presence will shine.
When we lack self confidence, we tend to talk badly about ourselves or put ourselves down. Not necessarily to those around us, though sometimes we do. What I'm talking about is when you are all alone and you say things to yourself like, you'll never get that job, there are so many others more qualified than you, or who would ever date me, I'm a fat mess.
Create something in stillness. When you spend time alone and in stillness you feed your creative vein. Why do you think many poets, artists, authors, musicians spend time alone? Because the loneliness gives them the chance to create from the inside. Why do you think people are destroying the world today? Because they are in such a hurry all the time so they dont see the beauty of the world. When you calm down and walk slowly all the beauty of the world will reveal itself to you.
Examples of self affirmations.I am confident in all that I do.When I look in the mirror, I see a confident able person looking back at me.I set achievable goals and I reach them easily.I am good at my job and others readily acknowledge this fact.I move confidently in the direction of my dreams.I look and feel great.I am strong and confident and I learn from my mistakes.I give and receive love freely.I am grateful for all the many blessings in my life and I have lots of them.I am confident in my ability to treat others with respect and in return, they treat me with respect.The above is just a short list of affirmations you can use to boost your confidence. You can use one of these affirmations I have provided here in this article or you can create your own. Just remember when you create your own affirmations, they need to be stated in the present tense and they need to be made with positive language.This article only addresses how to build self confidence using affirmations. There are plenty of other ways to build up your confidence. Affirmations are surely one very powerful way and should be included in any efforts for building your confidence, but remember there are several things you can do to build up your confidence.
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